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Understanding Anger

We all experience this when we cannot get what we want. “This” is a feeling of deep frustration – an intense emotion that we call “anger.”

We express our anger in different ways. Others tackle their anger in a positive way but some express it in the wrong way. Anger is not a problem. The problem lies in the way we manage it.

Anger is a healthy human emotion. If a person knows how to manage his anger the right way, there’s no way anger can turn into a problem for a person and his family. On the other hand, if a person “mismanages” his anger, then various problems are certain to occur. Inappropriate expression of anger may result to various physical, social, emotional, and legal problems. This is the reason why people who have a problem with managing their anger – especially irrational anger – should subject themselves to treatment procedures like counseling.

Understanding Anger

Anger affects all aspect of a person’s life. Anger triggers physical changes in the body which includes increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, increased muscle tension, hyperventilation, and increased body temperature. These changes in the body are due to the increased production of adrenalin (epinephrine and norepinephrine) which stimulates the sympathetic nervous system.

Anger is an emotional state that has various levels or degrees. It can range from mild irritation to intense anger. It can also affect a person’s cognitive perception or views. Thus, a person who is angry is unable to think straight.

To have a better understanding of what anger is all about, we should look at anger in a constructive way. Before a person experiences anger, there must be an external (someone or something) or internal stimuli (heartaches or emotional wounds). Prior to the angry state, the person recognizes his cognitive and emotional status. Next, he analyzes the external or internal stimuli, after which he looks for a way of coping with it. Thus is the way by which a person typically feels and expresses anger.

Factors that Influence Anger

The things that can make a person angry and the way he manages his anger can be influenced by internal and external factors. The following are some of the external and internal factors that affect a person’s tendency towards irrational anger.

External Factors

External factors have influence in a person’s tendency to be irrationally angry. Alcoholism and drug abuse, for instance, can make a person more prone to irrational anger. That is, an alcoholic or a drug addict is much more likely to have fits of irrational anger than someone else who has no history of substance abuse. Alcohol and drugs harm the brain and, in the long run, they can do so much harm that the person is rendered unable to properly process the information and other stimuli that he senses from his environment. Wrong interpretation, in turn, can lead to irrational anger. It is called irrational anger in this case because it is, in fact, based on the wrong premise.

Stress and pressure can also influence a person’s tendency to become irrationally angry. A person who is under a lot of pressure or stress usually has very low tolerance. This person can become prone to irrational anger.

The bad examples set by role models can also be another external factor. If someone grows up in a family or community where the older people – i.e. the role models – have managed their anger badly, this person can become prone to irrational anger later on.

Internal Factors

There are also internal factors that influence how a person processes information and thus his susceptibility to irrational anger. In other words, the way someone perceives events, circumstances, other people, and his life influences a person’s anger response and reaction mechanisms. Of course, these perceptions are, oftentimes, heavily influenced by external factors; environmental factors actually help shape a person’s perceptions. In any case, someone whose own perceptions (i.e. cognitive maps) are warped is more prone to irrational anger than someone who has a more positive view of life.

Thus, those who tend to react negatively to normal events as well as the things that other people say – those who assume that other people and certain life events are always in conflict with their ideologies, desires and endeavors – are predisposed towards irrational anger. They use emotional reasoning instead of logical reasoning so they can be very dysfunctional. They don’t see both sides of the coin. They only follow what they feel and forget about accurate information and reality.

Some people who have a distinctly negative view of reality will usually view challenges as insurmountable hindrances to their aspirations. They begin to feel that these hindrances were deliberately placed in their path to frustrate their ambitions or desires. Problems are a natural part of reality and life. When someone loses sight of this fact, he is setting himself up for severe frustration and, thus, irrational anger.

Physical and emotional pain can also make a person prone to irrational anger. If one feels powerless against all his pain, his patience or tolerance will soon be eroded and he will start becoming frustrated and angry.

Psychological problems like suppressed anger, past experiences of abuse and betrayal, loss, grief, and humiliation can cause anger-related problems. Psychological instability (psychological disorders) can also cause such problems.

Outcomes of Anger

As mentioned earlier, anger is a healthy emotion. But if anger is not properly managed it can lead to serious problems.

Anger can affect the functions of the body. It can lead to hypertension, stress ulcers and headache. Anger has physiological manifestations. When someone is always angry – and severely angry at that – his body will become ravaged.

Irrational anger can also lead to mental disorders like depression and nervous breakdowns. Anger can trigger depression (manifested by severe loneliness, loss of motivation and tendency to harm oneself). Many medical professionals believe that depression is, in fact, caused by suppressed anger. Since people experience big frustrations, they redirect their anger inwards. They then feel sad and believe themselves to be powerless.

Anger can also lead to obsession, phobias and other forms of addiction. Furthermore, anger can cause manic attacks. Since people with great sentiments cannot express their anger in a healthy way, they let it out through destructive activities such as hurting others, harming themselves and destroying property. Sometimes manic activities reach their peak, and this can lead to bipolar disorder.

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What is Anger Management

To feel anger is natural. However, to be irrationally or unreasonably angry is not. Such anger can lead to undesirable consequences; namely, broken relationships, depression and even legal complications. Those who feel such uncontrollable anger should get anger management therapy.

 

?Anger management refers to the utilization of therapeutic techniques to manage uncontrollable anger or rage. The purpose of anger management is to teach someone who suffers from irrational or uncontrollable anger strategies that he could use to control his anger and minimize the effect of those things that trigger or cause his anger. Through anger management therapy, therapists also try to redirect the patient’s extreme anger into more productive and healthy activities. Furthermore, they try to instill in the patient a more positive outlook in life. To accomplish all these, therapists use various techniques including deep breathing, meditation and stress management skills.

The system of anger management is also designed to be personal since people have different ways of expressing their anger. Whatever path a person takes in anger management, the only goal is to make a person emotionally and spiritually well.

Knowing the Two Types of Anger

Before a person subjects himself to anger management therapy, however, one must first accept that he has an anger management issue. He must also acknowledge that his anger is leading to serious repercussions that affect not only him but also the people around him. If a person is not committed to solving his anger problems – if he doesn’t even recognize the existence of a problem and the need for resolution – then there is no sense in undertaking anger management therapy for his negative and non-accepting attitude will defeat the purpose of anger management.

After acknowledging his anger management problem, the next step involves understanding the root of the problem. Specifically, he must try to find what has caused his anger management issues. He must also analyze how he copes with and expresses his anger.

A person can express his anger aggressively or passively. When a person is aggressive, he usually expresses his anger through violence, destructive actions, expressing threats, and taking revenge; he also tends to take his anger out on people who are weaker or smaller than him. On the other hand, passive persons express their anger through secretive behaviors, repetitive behaviors (obsession), manipulation, self-pity, and self-harm (suicidal tendencies). Nevertheless, both the passive and aggressive person cannot fully comprehend what he is doing and cannot control his emotions. Thus, it is important that those with anger management issues seek help and take the proper measures to solve the problem.

How to Handle Anger in a Positive Way

In order to manage his anger, one needs to establish a balance between anger control and anger expression. The following are some of the guidelines that can help a person express or handle his anger in a positive way.

  1. A person should express his anger in a straightforward manner. If one is angry, he should not suppress the anger or pretend that he is not angry. He should not beat around the bush. Instead, he must express his anger or make it tangible by using hand gestures and facial expressions and by letting the person concerned see such gestures and facial expressions.
  2. A person must also stay focused on the issue at hand. He must keep his attention focused on the issue that triggered the anger and not on matters that are irrelevant.
  3. One must also stand his ground when he is in the right. He must express his anger in a consistent manner in matters when his dignity is at risk. The assumption, here, of course is that the person knows when to be unrelenting and when not to be – that is, he knows the difference between petty and grave matters. This is where point number 4 comes in.
  4. A person must also use his reason when he is angry. First, there should be a logical basis for the anger. Second, the expression of anger must also be reasonable and not disproportionate to the situation. Third, he must maintain his self-awareness and observe his actions carefully to ensure that he doesn’t get out of line.
  5. One should also learn how to listen to the other party’s explanations. By listening, one may discover that he really doesn’t have any cause to be angry. Furthermore, how can one party make an apology if the other party is ranting and refuses to listen?
  6. Finally, a person must be compassionate. Even if his anger proves to be valid, one must have enough compassion and understanding for other people. After one has expressed his anger or frustration, there’s no reason why he cannot forgive the other person. It would be pretty senseless to hold on to an anger that you have already vented out.

Tips on Controlling Anger

The process of controlling anger, especially when a person is addicted to it, is really a difficult task. However, the following can help in anger management. Take note that these are not suppression techniques; anger suppression is not healthy. These are ways by which one can gain a measure of control over his anger and subsequent actions.

  1. A person who is at the brink of raging out or who is experiencing intense anger must take several deep breaths. Deep breathing will help calm the body and help restore the body to a non-aggressive/defensive state. This way, reason can dominate the tendency towards aggression and anger will become more manageable.
  2. One can also channel his anger towards extremely physical but basically harmless activities. For instance, one who feels rage coming on can expend his temper on a treadmill or in the gym. The adrenaline is expended and even put to better use, while one prevents himself from engaging in destructive activities in the heat of anger.
  3. One must also think about positive things when angry. In anger, a person’s bitter thoughts and emotions become rather exaggerated. By thinking positive thoughts, one can neutralize these thoughts and restore reason.

The following are things that a person who has anger management issues can do during periods of calm – that is, in between bursts of rage.

  1. During periods of calm, a person must think about his perceptions and analyze their validity. One must question the reasons for his anger – why does he get angry? He must evaluate whether his anger is usually valid or not. If it’s the latter, he must try to change those values or beliefs – misconceptions, actually – that are causing him to be irrationally angry.
  2. One must also try to establish a better relationship with people. He must also train himself to have a more positive outlook. He must keep on smiling, for instance. Being happy and positive is one of the ways by which anger can be defeated.

These tips are, of course, just meant to be general guides. Those who are suffering from anger management problems should still seek professional help so that a personal and specific anger management plan can be drawn for them.

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Never Make a Decision When You’re Angry.

Anger is an emotional state that can vary in intensity from mild irritation to intense rage! Like all our other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes, for instance, when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy, hormones and adrenaline.

Anger can be caused by both external and internal events going on in your life. However, how we express our anger is very important. An instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively and in some instances can be necessary to our survival. However, we can’t physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us! So there has to be a balance in controlling our emotions, which I can teach you.

We can all use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with angry feelings. The main approaches are usually expressing, suppressing, and calming.

Expressing angry feelings in an assertive [not aggressive] manner is the healthiest way to express anger. I can show you how to learn to be clear in what your needs are, and how to get them met without hurting others. Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and to others, which is very important.

Suppressing anger can create other problems. The consequences of holding in anger can lead to passive-aggressive behavior, in other words, getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them! People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything and making cynical comments haven’t learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren’t likely to have many successful relationships and their anger can turn inward—on themselves.

This can cause a variety of situations including depression, anxiety & high blood pressure. I can change this area of learned behavior & change your life.

Calming your anger is where you’re not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside. This only works if you are able to separately deal with the reasons behind the anger.

Control Anger — Before It Controls You

The goal of my Anger Management course is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. It’s very difficult to avoid the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions. I can easily help you change the way you think. When you first feel angry and out of control, walk away from the situation, take deep breaths and take time to think about the situation.

If you feel you are having problems with anger that would be undoubtedly impacting your relationship and other areas, I have a range of techniques for changing your thinking habits and behavior

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Theories on Anger Management

Theories on Anger Management
Anger is considered as one of the seven deadly sins in the Catholic faith. But is anger really a sin? If we think about it, anger is a natural feeling. It is not such a bad thing. It is our body’s way of reacting to threat and impending danger. It is even necessary in our body’s defense against such threat and danger.

Everyone experiences anger, no one can deny it. However, we usually think of anger as something destructive. While it is true that we must mind what we do and say when we are angry, we must not think of anger as something evil or unnatural. Anger is a healthy way of releasing negative thoughts and feelings. If it is managed properly, then everything will go well. But if it is suppressed and handled negatively; it may lead to aggression or addiction to rage.

If you feel that you cannot control your anger and it has caused you and your family a lot of damage, then you must seek professional help. Uncontrolled anger requires management.

How Does Anger Works Inside the Body?
Do you feel hot and does your heartbeat race when you’re angry? Well, these are some of the physiological changes that you will experience when you’re in the heat of your anger. The purpose of understanding where anger is coming from is one of the concepts that experts use in their anger management programs. Let us understand what causes anger and how it affects our body.

When a person feels threatened or gets frustrated, a part of the brain – called the amygdala – signals the other parts of the body to prepare for defense. The amygdala signals the adrenal gland to release hormones that would increase the heart rate, elevate blood pressure, allow the lungs to expand for increased oxygen supply to the muscles and keep the brain focused on the target (the cause of anger). Moreover, the body continues to produce catecholamine (norepinephrine and epinephrine) that help maintain the body’s energy levels. Once these are done, you are ready to defend yourself!

Many people would say that when you’re in the heat of anger, you cannot really control it. This is not true, however. There is one part of the brain which is in charge of the person’s judgment. This is the prefrontal cortex of the brain, particularly the left prefrontal cortex.

The left prefrontal cortex has the capacity to switch off a person’s emotions. He is the ‘director’ that keeps things in balance. To make the prefrontal cortex work, a person needs to learn techniques that will let the prefrontal cortex develop superiority over the amygdala. As a case in point, a person can learn relaxation techniques and cognitive control techniques that will decrease the activity of the amygdala and thus allow the left prefrontal cortex to reign over his emotions.

After the physiologic preparation of the body for defense, the body undergoes a cooling-down phase. This happens when the target or the source of anger is no longer accessible. At this phase, the anger threshold becomes so low that it is easier for a person to get angry again – and the sad part of it is that the intensity of anger can easily rise. This is the reason why a person who has just been recently angry gets easily mad with the least amount of provocation. Furthermore, the arousal caused by the adrenal hormones can meddle with the ability of the person to think through the reasons for the outburst. This is also the reason why it is difficult to communicate with an angry person.

Psychosocial Theory Related to Anger
Sad experiences like the loss of a loved one, frustrations, failures, and the loss of the love and support of others, create a mark on a person’s life particularly on the way a person perceives life. If a person grew up in a family where love and support were not freely given, he will feel that his life is not worth living. The notion of neglect will make the person angry at his family and the life he has. If his issues are not resolved during his childhood years, the child’s anger usually will stay hidden until his adult years. Suppressed anger will then lead to deeper problems like aggression and violence.

Concepts Used in Anger Management
Many experts have developed research on how to explain the cause of anger and the basis of managing it. The following are some of the concepts used by professionals to create a more effective anger management program.

Freud, the person who developed the psychosexual theory, related anger to the “hydraulic theory.” In hydraulic theory, the pressure is released and distributed in all parts of the body/system. We can fully understand hydraulic theory by using a pressure cooker as an example. When the pressure cooker is placed on a stove, the heat from the flame causes pressure to build in the cooker. Think of the steam coming out of the pressure cooker as anger. In that case, the only way to release the steam (or anger) is by taking the lid off the cooker. We therefore have to let the pressure cooker cool down before we open the lid so that we can prevent accidents. Applying this metaphor to anger management, we have to learn cooling-down techniques if we want to prevent our anger from causing undesirable results.

However, anger management professionals do not recommend suppression. The main cause of anger addiction or aggression is suppression. It is believed that a person suppresses his negative thoughts and emotions so he can move on and forget about getting hurt. By suppressing these negative emotions, a person will develop uncontrolled rage and may even cause physical harm.

In anger management programs, it is advised that we express our anger and let it all out. Using the above metaphor, the proper way of cooling down also necessitates taking the lid off and letting all the anger out.

Experts use expressive therapy to help patients express their anger. This therapy is commonly used in group sessions and psychodramas. How does this work? In expressive therapy, the person will express his anger through beating objects like pillows, shouting, yelling, or using models which will represent the past events in one’s life. The purpose of expressive therapy is to let a person feel that it’s alright to get angry. Expressive therapy will let you feel the pain all over again but, in the end, you will feel that it’s ok to cry and it’s ok to feel hurt as long as you learn how to overcome it and come back to reality as a stronger person.

Learn what anger management is all about and how it can help you. Anger management is the only way to escape from the imprisonment of a life filled with rage.

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Irrational Anger: Causes

Irrational Anger: Causes
We all experience this when we cannot get what we want. “This” is a feeling of deep frustration – an intense emotion that we call “anger.”

We express our anger in different ways. Others tackle their anger in a positive way but some express it in the wrong way. Anger is not a problem. The problem lies in the way we manage it.

Anger is a healthy human emotion. If a person knows how to manage his anger the right way, there’s no way anger can turn into a problem for a person and his family. On the other hand, if a person “mismanages” his anger, then various problems are certain to occur. Inappropriate expression of anger may result to various physical, social, emotional, and legal problems. This is the reason why people who have a problem with managing their anger – especially irrational anger – should subject themselves to treatment procedures like counseling.

Understanding Anger
Anger affects all aspect of a person’s life. Anger triggers physical changes in the body which includes increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, increased muscle tension, hyperventilation, and increased body temperature. These changes in the body are due to the increased production of adrenalin (epinephrine and norepinephrine) which stimulates the sympathetic nervous system.

Anger is an emotional state that has various levels or degrees. It can range from mild irritation to intense anger. It can also affect a person’s cognitive perception or views. Thus, a person who is angry is unable to think straight.

To have a better understanding of what anger is all about, we should look at anger in a constructive way. Before a person experiences anger, there must be an external (someone or something) or internal stimuli (heartaches or emotional wounds). Prior to the angry state, the person recognizes his cognitive and emotional status. Next, he analyzes the external or internal stimuli, after which he looks for a way of coping with it. Thus is the way by which a person typically feels and expresses anger.

Factors that Influence Anger
The things that can make a person angry and the way he manages his anger can be influenced by internal and external factors. The following are some of the external and internal factors that affect a person’s tendency towards irrational anger.

External Factors

External factors have influence in a person’s tendency to be irrationally angry. Alcoholism and drug abuse, for instance, can make a person more prone to irrational anger. That is, an alcoholic or a drug addict is much more likely to have fits of irrational anger than someone else who has no history of substance abuse. Alcohol and drugs harm the brain and, in the long run, they can do so much harm that the person is rendered unable to properly process the information and other stimuli that he senses from his environment. Wrong interpretation, in turn, can lead to irrational anger. It is called irrational anger in this case because it is, in fact, based on the wrong premise.

Stress and pressure can also influence a person’s tendency to become irrationally angry. A person who is under a lot of pressure or stress usually has very low tolerance. This person can become prone to irrational anger.

The bad examples set by role models can also be another external factor. If someone grows up in a family or community where the older people – i.e. the role models – have managed their anger badly, this person can become prone to irrational anger later on.

Internal Factors

There are also internal factors that influence how a person processes information and thus his susceptibility to irrational anger. In other words, the way someone perceives events, circumstances, other people, and his life influences a person’s anger response and reaction mechanisms. Of course, these perceptions are, oftentimes, heavily influenced by external factors; environmental factors actually help shape a person’s perceptions. In any case, someone whose own perceptions (i.e. cognitive maps) are warped is more prone to irrational anger than someone who has a more positive view of life.

Thus, those who tend to react negatively to normal events as well as the things that other people say – those who assume that other people and certain life events are always in conflict with their ideologies, desires and endeavors – are predisposed towards irrational anger. They use emotional reasoning instead of logical reasoning so they can be very dysfunctional. They don’t see both sides of the coin. They only follow what they feel and forget about accurate information and reality.

Some people who have a distinctly negative view of reality will usually view challenges as insurmountable hindrances to their aspirations. They begin to feel that these hindrances were deliberately placed in their path to frustrate their ambitions or desires. Problems are a natural part of reality and life. When someone loses sight of this fact, he is setting himself up for severe frustration and, thus, irrational anger.

Physical and emotional pain can also make a person prone to irrational anger. If one feels powerless against all his pain, his patience or tolerance will soon be eroded and he will start becoming frustrated and angry.

Psychological problems like suppressed anger, past experiences of abuse and betrayal, loss, grief, and humiliation can cause anger-related problems. Psychological instability (psychological disorders) can also cause such problems.

Outcomes of Anger
As mentioned earlier, anger is a healthy emotion. But if anger is not properly managed it can lead to serious problems.

Anger can affect the functions of the body. It can lead to hypertension, stress ulcers and headache. Anger has physiological manifestations. When someone is always angry – and severely angry at that – his body will become ravaged.

Irrational anger can also lead to mental disorders like depression and nervous breakdowns. Anger can trigger depression (manifested by severe loneliness, loss of motivation and tendency to harm oneself). Many medical professionals believe that depression is, in fact, caused by suppressed anger. Since people experience big frustrations, they redirect their anger inwards. They then feel sad and believe themselves to be powerless.

Anger can also lead to obsession, phobias and other forms of addiction. Furthermore, anger can cause manic attacks. Since people with great sentiments cannot express their anger in a healthy way, they let it out through destructive activities such as hurting others, harming themselves and destroying property. Sometimes manic activities reach their peak, and this can lead to bipolar disorder

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Irrational Anger: Causes

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We all experience this when we cannot get what we want. “This” is a feeling of deep frustration – an intense emotion that we call “anger.”

We express our anger in different ways. Others tackle their anger in a positive way but some express it in the wrong way. Anger is not a problem. The problem lies in the way we manage it.

Anger is a healthy human emotion. If a person knows how to manage his anger the right way, there’s no way anger can turn into a problem for a person and his family. On the other hand, if a person “mismanages” his anger, then various problems are certain to occur. Inappropriate expression of anger may result to various physical, social, emotional, and legal problems. This is the reason why people who have a problem with managing their anger – especially irrational anger – should subject themselves to treatment procedures like counseling.

Understanding Anger

Anger affects all aspect of a person’s life. Anger triggers physical changes in the body which includes increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, increased muscle tension, hyperventilation, and increased body temperature. These changes in the body are due to the increased production of adrenalin (epinephrine and norepinephrine) which stimulates the sympathetic nervous system.

Anger is an emotional state that has various levels or degrees. It can range from mild irritation to intense anger. It can also affect a person’s cognitive perception or views. Thus, a person who is angry is unable to think straight.

To have a better understanding of what anger is all about, we should look at anger in a constructive way. Before a person experiences anger, there must be an external (someone or something) or internal stimuli (heartaches or emotional wounds). Prior to the angry state, the person recognizes his cognitive and emotional status. Next, he analyzes the external or internal stimuli, after which he looks for a way of coping with it. Thus is the way by which a person typically feels and expresses anger.

Factors that Influence Anger

The things that can make a person angry and the way he manages his anger can be influenced by internal and external factors. The following are some of the external and internal factors that affect a person’s tendency towards irrational anger.

External Factors

External factors have influence in a person’s tendency to be irrationally angry. Alcoholism and drug abuse, for instance, can make a person more prone to irrational anger. That is, an alcoholic or a drug addict is much more likely to have fits of irrational anger than someone else who has no history of substance abuse. Alcohol and drugs harm the brain and, in the long run, they can do so much harm that the person is rendered unable to properly process the information and other stimuli that he senses from his environment. Wrong interpretation, in turn, can lead to irrational anger. It is called irrational anger in this case because it is, in fact, based on the wrong premise.

Stress and pressure can also influence a person’s tendency to become irrationally angry. A person who is under a lot of pressure or stress usually has very low tolerance. This person can become prone to irrational anger.

The bad examples set by role models can also be another external factor. If someone grows up in a family or community where the older people – i.e. the role models – have managed their anger badly, this person can become prone to irrational anger later on.

Internal Factors

There are also internal factors that influence how a person processes information and thus his susceptibility to irrational anger. In other words, the way someone perceives events, circumstances, other people, and his life influences a person’s anger response and reaction mechanisms. Of course, these perceptions are, oftentimes, heavily influenced by external factors; environmental factors actually help shape a person’s perceptions. In any case, someone whose own perceptions (i.e. cognitive maps) are warped is more prone to irrational anger than someone who has a more positive view of life.

Thus, those who tend to react negatively to normal events as well as the things that other people say – those who assume that other people and certain life events are always in conflict with their ideologies, desires and endeavors – are predisposed towards irrational anger. They use emotional reasoning instead of logical reasoning so they can be very dysfunctional. They don’t see both sides of the coin. They only follow what they feel and forget about accurate information and reality.

Some people who have a distinctly negative view of reality will usually view challenges as insurmountable hindrances to their aspirations. They begin to feel that these hindrances were deliberately placed in their path to frustrate their ambitions or desires. Problems are a natural part of reality and life. When someone loses sight of this fact, he is setting himself up for severe frustration and, thus, irrational anger.

Physical and emotional pain can also make a person prone to irrational anger. If one feels powerless against all his pain, his patience or tolerance will soon be eroded and he will start becoming frustrated and angry.

Psychological problems like suppressed anger, past experiences of abuse and betrayal, loss, grief, and humiliation can cause anger-related problems. Psychological instability (psychological disorders) can also cause such problems.

Outcomes of Anger

As mentioned earlier, anger is a healthy emotion. But if anger is not properly managed it can lead to serious problems.

Anger can affect the functions of the body. It can lead to hypertension, stress ulcers and headache. Anger has physiological manifestations. When someone is always angry – and severely angry at that – his body will become ravaged.

Irrational anger can also lead to mental disorders like depression and nervous breakdowns. Anger can trigger depression (manifested by severe loneliness, loss of motivation and tendency to harm oneself). Many medical professionals believe that depression is, in fact, caused by suppressed anger. Since people experience big frustrations, they redirect their anger inwards. They then feel sad and believe themselves to be powerless.

Anger can also lead to obsession, phobias and other forms of addiction. Furthermore, anger can cause manic attacks. Since people with great sentiments cannot express their anger in a healthy way, they let it out through destructive activities such as hurting others, harming themselves and destroying property. Sometimes manic activities reach their peak, and this can lead to bipolar disorder.

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Anger Management and Treatment

Anger Management and Treatment

To feel anger is natural. However, to be irrationally or unreasonably angry is not. Such anger can lead to undesirable consequences; namely, broken relationships, depression and even legal complications. Those who feel such uncontrollable anger should get anger management therapy.

 

What is Anger Management?

Anger management refers to the utilization of therapeutic techniques to manage uncontrollable anger or rage. The purpose of anger management is to teach someone who suffers from irrational or uncontrollable anger strategies that he could use to control his anger and minimize the effect of those things that trigger or cause his anger. Through anger management therapy, therapists also try to redirect the patient’s extreme anger into more productive and healthy activities. Furthermore, they try to instill in the patient a more positive outlook in life. To accomplish all these, therapists use various techniques including deep breathing, meditation and stress management skills.

The system of anger management is also designed to be personal since people have different ways of expressing their anger. Whatever path a person takes in anger management, the only goal is to make a person emotionally and spiritually well.

Knowing the Two Types of Anger

Before a person subjects himself to anger management therapy, however, one must first accept that he has an anger management issue. He must also acknowledge that his anger is leading to serious repercussions that affect not only him but also the people around him. If a person is not committed to solving his anger problems – if he doesn’t even recognize the existence of a problem and the need for resolution – then there is no sense in undertaking anger management therapy for his negative and non-accepting attitude will defeat the purpose of anger management.

After acknowledging his anger management problem, the next step involves understanding the root of the problem. Specifically, he must try to find what has caused his anger management issues. He must also analyze how he copes with and expresses his anger.

A person can express his anger aggressively or passively. When a person is aggressive, he usually expresses his anger through violence, destructive actions, expressing threats, and taking revenge; he also tends to take his anger out on people who are weaker or smaller than him. On the other hand, passive persons express their anger through secretive behaviors, repetitive behaviors (obsession), manipulation, self-pity, and self-harm (suicidal tendencies). Nevertheless, both the passive and aggressive person cannot fully comprehend what he is doing and cannot control his emotions. Thus, it is important that those with anger management issues seek help and take the proper measures to solve the problem.

How to Handle Anger in a Positive Way

In order to manage his anger, one needs to establish a balance between anger control and anger expression. The following are some of the guidelines that can help a person express or handle his anger in a positive way.

  1. A person should express his anger in a straightforward manner. If one is angry, he should not suppress the anger or pretend that he is not angry. He should not beat around the bush. Instead, he must express his anger or make it tangible by using hand gestures and facial expressions and by letting the person concerned see such gestures and facial expressions.
  2. A person must also stay focused on the issue at hand. He must keep his attention focused on the issue that triggered the anger and not on matters that are irrelevant.
  3. One must also stand his ground when he is in the right. He must express his anger in a consistent manner in matters when his dignity is at risk. The assumption, here, of course is that the person knows when to be unrelenting and when not to be – that is, he knows the difference between petty and grave matters. This is where point number 4 comes in.
  4. A person must also use his reason when he is angry. First, there should be a logical basis for the anger. Second, the expression of anger must also be reasonable and not disproportionate to the situation. Third, he must maintain his self-awareness and observe his actions carefully to ensure that he doesn’t get out of line.
  5. One should also learn how to listen to the other party’s explanations. By listening, one may discover that he really doesn’t have any cause to be angry. Furthermore, how can one party make an apology if the other party is ranting and refuses to listen?
  6. Finally, a person must be compassionate. Even if his anger proves to be valid, one must have enough compassion and understanding for other people. After one has expressed his anger or frustration, there’s no reason why he cannot forgive the other person. It would be pretty senseless to hold on to an anger that you have already vented out.

Tips on Controlling Anger

The process of controlling anger, especially when a person is addicted to it, is really a difficult task. However, the following can help in anger management. Take note that these are not suppression techniques; anger suppression is not healthy. These are ways by which one can gain a measure of control over his anger and subsequent actions.

  1. A person who is at the brink of raging out or who is experiencing intense anger must take several deep breaths. Deep breathing will help calm the body and help restore the body to a non-aggressive/defensive state. This way, reason can dominate the tendency towards aggression and anger will become more manageable.
  2. One can also channel his anger towards extremely physical but basically harmless activities. For instance, one who feels rage coming on can expend his temper on a treadmill or in the gym. The adrenaline is expended and even put to better use, while one prevents himself from engaging in destructive activities in the heat of anger.
  3. One must also think about positive things when angry. In anger, a person’s bitter thoughts and emotions become rather exaggerated. By thinking positive thoughts, one can neutralize these thoughts and restore reason.

The following are things that a person who has anger management issues can do during periods of calm – that is, in between bursts of rage.

  1. During periods of calm, a person must think about his perceptions and analyze their validity. One must question the reasons for his anger – why does he get angry? He must evaluate whether his anger is usually valid or not. If it’s the latter, he must try to change those values or beliefs – misconceptions, actually – that are causing him to be irrationally angry.
  2. One must also try to establish a better relationship with people. He must also train himself to have a more positive outlook. He must keep on smiling, for instance. Being happy and positive is one of the ways by which anger can be defeated.

These tips are, of course, just meant to be general guides. Those who are suffering from anger management problems should still seek professional help so that a personal and specific anger management plan can be drawn for them.

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Anger is an emotional state that can vary in intensity from mild irritation to intense rage! Like all our other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes, for instance, when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy, hormones and adrenaline.

Anger can be caused by both external and internal events going on in your life. However, how we express our anger is very important. An instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively and in some instances can be necessary to our survival. However, we can’t physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us! So there has to be a balance in controlling our emotions, which I can teach you.

We can all use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with angry feelings. The main approaches are usually expressing, suppressing, and calming.

Expressing angry feelings in an assertive [not aggressive] manner is the healthiest way to express anger. I can show you how to learn to be clear in what your needs are, and how to get them met without hurting others. Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and to others, which is very important.

Suppressing anger can create other problems. The consequences of holding in anger can lead to passive-aggressive behavior, in other words, getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them! People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything and making cynical comments haven’t learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren’t likely to have many successful relationships and their anger can turn inward—on themselves.

This can cause a variety of situations including depression, anxiety & high blood pressure. I can change this area of learned behavior & change your life.

Calming your anger is where you’re not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside. This only works if you are able to separately deal with the reasons behind the anger.

Control Anger — Before It Controls You

The goal of my Anger Management course is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. It’s very difficult to avoid the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions. I can easily help you change the way you think. When you first feel angry and out of control, walk away from the situation, take deep breaths and take time to think about the situation.

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If you feel you are having problems with anger that would be undoubtedly impacting your relationship and other areas, I have a range of techniques for changing your thinking habits and behavior.

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